( The world would be a better place if people learned to love themselves)
My friend Webster's definition of love:1. strong affection for another arising out of KINSHIP or personal ties
2. warm attachment, ENTHUSIASM, or DEVOTION
3. the object of ATTACHMENT, devotion, admiration
4. UNSELFISH loyal and benevolent CONCERN for the GOOD of another
Now that we see what love is..or at least have a definition of love, let me give my definition of SELF love.
SELFLove a journey, a journey that requires you to spend the same time and energy and passion that you have for loving your friends, or spouse, or family and learning how to love yourself the same way, if not more. Developing a Relationship with yourself and being real about who you are and where you are in life. Being DEVOTED to getting to know yourself on a regular basis...with the same kind of passion or drive you'd have when chasing after a career or dream. Being excited and ENTHUSED to spend time with yourself, and realizing that when you have You..YOU don't have to be lonely again. Getting ATTACHED to yourself, recognizing, embracing, and acknowledging yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Spending time with SELF. Making enough time to be CONCERNED about your personal needs and desires. Being the best you, YOU can be for the GOOD of others and for your own benefit.
SELFLove is NOT
1. About being selfish, but being strong enough and wise enough to make you a priority in life.
2. Doing anything and everything you want, but about making decisions that are best for your life.
3. Being stubborn or refusing to change who you are, but being open and excited about constantly growing and changing as a person.
4. Not staying stagnant yet accepting who you are even your flaws.
5. Being self-centered, its about learning to properly love and take care of yourself so that you can help others do the same.
THE BIGGEST LIE EVER: Your race, gender, class, orientation, size, or any other part of your identity should NOT determine how much you should or shouldn't love yourself. Being poor, or being a size 24 or being a highschool dropout (anything you want to name) SHOULD NOT determine how much you should love yourself. EVERY Human being on the face of the planet deserves Love, Peace, and Joy. Don't fool yourself by thinking that because you come from a certain background, have a particualr hair texture, or can't fit into a size 6, 8, or 12 jean that you're unlovable. Don't think that just because you've made mistakes in the past or continue to make mistakes (even the same ones) that you should punish yourself by denying yourself love. Don't let mom, dad, foster parents, boyfriend, girlfriend, "friends" or anyone from your past or in the future make you believe that they are the only one's that can and will "love" you or that your are unworthy and undeserving of love..it is a bold face lie. Food, shelter, and clothing are basic rights but so are Love, Inner Peace, and Joy. Aspire to get those things for yourself so that NOone no matter what, can take them away from you.
If you don't love you right now..I do!!!
Its a loooooooong journey that I'm still on, but the trip is soo worth it : )
LOVE
-RonnieCole
